The Envelope Please: Navigating the Invitation Process with Ease

Invites Ink! Wedding Invitation Brian Masserman

Custom wedding invitation

There are so many choices when it comes to the big invitation decision.  Whether planning a wedding, bar or bat mitzvah or other event, you can decide to do-it-yourself (DIY), make it semi-homemade, buy engraved, thermography, letterpress, OY — are you getting a headache yet?  Most of us want some customization and creative input but don’t want to completely do it alone, at home without support or expert resources.

Where to Start:  DIY or Hire a Pro?

The majority of invitation “shoppers” want to be able to do some research on their own before actually meeting with an invitation professional or deciding to go it alone.  Ideally, once we have a sense of what we like, don’t like and/or what type of event we’re planning, we want to connect with a company or individual that can walk us through the process.  When working with an invitation professional, here are some things to look for:


  • Ask to see current samples of their work
  • Get references from friends/acquaintances
  • What is the turnaround time?
  • How quickly can you get an appointment for one-on-one service
  • Do they carry a variety of styles and brands?
  • Does their personality align with yours?
  • Are there products in your price range?
  • Can they handle the addressing and calligraphy?

Dana Ishbia, owner of The Write Stuff, always tells her customers “to get organized, don’t try to keep up with what others are doing, and to relax…this is a fun, exciting time!” For the past 18 years, Ishbia has helped turn dreams into reality with her full service invitation business.

Trends: What’s hot?

Colors:  This year the hot Pantone color is Tangerine Tango (Spring 2012)

Style:  Letterpress and other techniques that deliver texture. Vintage is also very popular.

RSVP:  More people are moving to email vs. snail mail especially for Bar/Bat Mitzvah.

Paper:  Natural materials with an eco-conscious approach.

Design:  Couples are getting custom monograms designed and then building their invitation from there; vintage design, silhouettes and botanical are leading the way for wedding invites.

Choosing the Right Wording: blended families, encore weddings and more

Invites Ink! Bat Mitzvah Invitation Brian Masserman

Personalized Bat Mitzvah Invitation

You’ve set the date, found a venue and even selected the perfect invitation.  Now, comes the hard part.  How do you find just the right words to include step parents, siblings, significant others, deceased parents and more? This is one of the questions that invitation gurus ask most often.

Fortunately, there is no right way anymore to extend your invitation, via a printed gesture, to guests on behalf of yourself or others.  Many formalities have gone by the wayside in lieu of more modern approaches that tend to be inclusive rather than exclusive and accommodate blended families, as is often the case.

Whether you are planning a wedding for yourself or your daughter, celebrating a Bar Mitzvah or throwing a bridal shower, the invitation experts can help you craft just the right message.

Criteria to consider when choosing or writing your wedding invitation message:

  • How formal is the affair?
  • Are parents throwing the wedding?
  • Are the parents of the bride and groom involved?
  • Are there step parents to consider?
  • How do you include parents if you and your fiancé are planning/paying for your own wedding?
  • What if a parent is deceased?  Does his/her name appear on the invitation?
  • Is the ceremony going to be held in a religious sanctuary or a reception/banquet space?


According to Terri Trepeck, owner of Invites Ink!, “there are very few rules about Bar/Bat invitation wording.”  There are several popular options that can be tailored to your specific mitzvah and personal preference.  Most of the time, the invitation is extended by the parents of the child who is becoming a Bar or Bat Mitzvah.  Once in awhile, it is the child who is doing the inviting.

Here are several ideas for you to try out.  You can also include your son/daughter’s Hebrew name in the invitation wording. Remember, this is not something to stress over.  “You are preparing for a joyous occasion and the invitation should be a reflection of the joy, happiness and pride you are feeling about this milestone event,” reminds Trepeck.

Bar/Bat Mitzvah Wording Options:

Happy occasions when shared with

Family and friends become life’s cherished memories

Please join us when our son

Adam Michael

Is called to the Torah as a Bar Mitzvah


It would be our pleasure to have you join us

In worship and celebration

When our daughter

Marci Lynn

Becomes a Bat Mitzvah

Wedding Wording Options:

Bride and Groom’s parents sharing in the wedding planning/expense equally

Mr. and Mrs. David Green

Mr. and Mrs. John Rosenberg

Request the honour of your presence

At the marriage of their children

Amy Lynn Green


Steven Andrew Rosenberg


Bride and Groom giving the wedding

Amy Lynn Green


Steven Andrew Rosenberg

Request the pleasure of your company

At their wedding


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